Walk Away. . . Seriously, Walk Away!
- Sue Ann Cordell
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I hope your week is off to a great start! Can you believe we are mid-way through the year? If you set goals back in January, why not take some time today to check in on your progress? How's it going so far? If you got off track, it's okay! Don't be so hard on yourself. Good intentions can often times be interrupted by distractions.
When this happens, remind yourself that you were born to do great things - don't lose sight of your dreams. Why not declare today, Reset Day?
There are many distractions that can slow us down or take us off our game completely. And today, I want to focus on one distraction that is easy to get caught up in.
Quite frankly, it never has a good outcome. It has the ability to ruin relationships, diminish self-esteem, and bring out the worst in us. In other words, it hurts us more than it hurts anyone else.
The distraction I'm referring to is Gossip. None of us, myself included, are immune to this. We can so easily get pulled into the drama of another's life and feel the urge to chime in, agree, or give our own opinion about certain life decisions.
Gossip is a habit for many people. In my book entitled, Simplify, A Life Anchored In Purpose, I describe a habit as something we do so often that it becomes second nature. It is so much a part of our every day life that we don't even realize we are doing it. At first it may seem awkward, but in a short period of time through repetition it becomes a habit for you.
In an article by Hannah Rose, LCPC in Psychology Today, she writes: When we gossip, we are fertilizing our minds with toxicity and judgment. We are much more likely to scrutinize ourselves even when we are busy scrutinizing others. We are significantly more susceptible to self-centered fear and the obsession that others are going to gossip about us.
She goes onto to write: I try to remember this- I tend to have a much more difficult time trusting peers who gossip constantly than the ones who don't. If someone is speaking negatively about all of my friends to me, they are extremely likely to be doing the same things to me behind my back.
 "Gossip is speaking to someone who is neither directly part of the problem or the solution in a situation, concerning another person who is not present." - Caesar Kalinowski
How To Avoid Gossip In Your Life
Be the advocate. Whenever you have the chance, stick up for the "defenseless" person in a situation. Remind others that may be gossiping about someone else that we don't know the whole story, and shouldn't be jumping to conclusions.
Instead of tearing others down and talking badly behind their back - be the person who says good things about them when they are not around.
Stay away from the Telephone Game. It never turns out well!
When a conversation turns to gossip - walk away. Seriously, walk away!
Let's Celebrate Reset Day!
If you fall down - pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again!
You were born to do great things - don't lose sight of your dreams!
At SHINEWORTHY Lifestyles, we specialize in helping people achieve their dreams faster and improve their lives through One to One Coaching with Sue Ann Cordell, and SHINEWORTHY Collective Group Coaching. Email sueann@sueanncordell.com for more information.
Thought for the Day: When somebody comes to you and says, "Have you heard..." before they go any further, say: Why are you telling me this?" The pause focuses the conversation and gives you some control without chiding the other person. It may even give them pause. I think it's a great question, because the other person might think: "Oh, right - why am I doing this?"
Have A Great Day!